another broken heart braveheart: my story is not unlike anyone elses, it has been 8 months since he walked out and it is still not any easier today than it was then. He told me I had to have known it was coming, but I assure you I did not. It is such a long and drawn out story, I am so tired of repeating it over and over. I believe that I need professional help. At this time we are still married although he is living with his 'new' girlfriend just down the street from our home. It does not seem to be getting any easier and I guess it probably never will as long as I am in this town. Every day I dread the thought of seeing him somewhere with his arm slung over her, kissing, or holding hands...etc...I'm so very lonely.
Re: another broken heart mrlament: rosebud,
i left my wife for two years...when i realized i had made a mistake she took me back, she said that i would have to deal w/the fact when she got mad,angry or if it came up i would just have to eat S*IT but i didnt..perhaps it should have she may have surpressed her feelings about it...anyway my point is she has now left me **(important to note i had a er..ah...problem) but she has a boyfriend. if you do want him back and take him back be sure you address the issue of the other woman and dont surpress youre feelings just for the sake of having him back. all the best!
Re: another broken heart charmed: braveheart, professional help might be what you need.
I also did not see the break-up coming. There were NO signs whatsoever and the pain is no less than that of a death. It's a shock to your emotions and your psyche.
Your husband living closeby surely instills even more pain. That sucks!!!
Sometimes the healing comes when the reality of who they are becomes crystal clear. It can be a long journey. I still recall the person I saw before me, which was a wonderful man, and have trouble realizing that he either deceived me the whole time or changed drastically.
I have analyzed and tried to piece it all together. I question did he ever love me at all, but then realized that it isn't his love I need to worry about. I know what I offered, how I loved and the person I presented to him was REAL and what he did or gave that was real or deceptive, he'll have to deal with. Focus on what you gave and not so much what he did or didn't give. We can live with ourselves knowing we gave our all and probably will never get the answers from them.
In the end we will be better off without someone who couldn't stay for the long haul and be the person they gave us reason to believe they were.
Is it possible for you to move? You shouldn't be put in that position, but it might be better for you emotionally, if you can do this.
I wish you the very best in life ;D
`charmed
Re: another broken heart Alone with 3: Braveheat, I'm not sure if you are still reading this thread but I totally identify with you and your situation. My stbx is having the time of his life without the responsibility of a wife, 3 kids and a mortgage. I know I should be moving on with my life and have a "see ya" attitude but all I can seem to concentrate on is what I've lost. And it's incredibly lonely. That is so overwhelming for me and people keep saying that time will make it better so I'm going to trust that it's going to happen. Hold on.
Re: another broken heart Usedup: I too am in the same situation and thought about seeking help. I have never been to a therapist and am not sure if they could help or not by digging up all the things that hurt us all so badly.
I also have a real hard time even thinking of the ex with someone else.
It tears my heart apart still. We have to let it go and realize we are just better off without them and will find love again from someone alot better.
They may be on the rebound stage and probally wont last and we will then get our revenge by seeing them going through it again.
I know it is hard to let them go but remember they are the reason we feel this way and it will be best to remove them out of our heart so it dont get broken more.
Good luck
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