Re: Dating when you're a package deal? heikep_2002: to mrlament,hey I thing that is a really sweat reply,I like it for my self
Re: Dating when you're a package deal? mrlament: meplusthree,
this may be a little off topic but my wife moved on and now has someone special in her life, when i found out about him, my emotions ran the gamut...anger ,jealusly, hurt...any way. she found someone obviously willing to take the whole package and one day you will too...it just has to be the right fit...you wont find him he will find "youthree". and you will know him when you see him.
Dating when you're a package deal? meplusthree: I'm done! I've been divorced for three years and have been on a jillion "dates"...most of them I never follow up on because they aren't worth following. I've dating three guys "seriously", and truly fell in love with one (the first one)...the next two have been older than me by 8 years and had their heads screwed on relatively straight although, as we've all seen here, "nobody's perfect." I just got dumped by the latest who was as perfect as they come...absolutely a fit in everyway but one...he didn't want to do the whole kid thing...and I have three. Three wonderfully bright and funny kids. In ending it he said, "Its not your kids because they are so great...they are what I hope mine are. It's just that I know I wasn't meant to be a father, but I figured that out after my own were born." (He hasn't seen his girls in 6 years primarily because of their mother). He said he liked his freedom, essentially, and couldn't live in suburbia...
So...I'm done...and I think that anyone who finds someone is very very lucky...like winning the lottery.
Re: Dating when you're a package deal? mrlament: thank you heikep_2002,
unfourtunately it is still a bitter sweet pill to swallow...but i'm trying to be honest w/myself. the idea that someone else will probrably be the one to see my son (two) tie his shoe for the first time and all that jazz, you know.
Re: Dating when you're a package deal? meplusthree: Today I'm still done. And maybe you are right that he will find methree...but poor guy will have to work darn hard because I'm wrapping this old heart up in barbed wire and booby traps. Mr. Previous is a really wonderful guy and I don't begrudge him a thing...he was as upset about it as I was, I think. It just is what it is and he's not into kids and therefore doesn't want the chaos that is life with kids. Maybe its different when they are your own, maybe its different because I have three, maybe it is different because I wanted to be a mom since I was about 8 years old, maybe its different because its a dreamed fullfilled for me?
I'm glad and at peace knowing that some guys just can't do the kid thing. Just can't figure out why anyone wouldn't want to...
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