How? angeldust: How does one pick up the pices after getting her heart
broken?
I do not know what to do, I feel there is nothing worth livng for.
I do not want to harm myself, I am just tired of hurting.
After spending 18 years with the same person, its so hard to
try and make sense of this life.
I want him back, yet I know it could never be the same...should
I just sit and wait, watch life go by or should I keep going, even if it is absolutely meaningless right now!
Re: How? charmed: I also have had a painful journey, but I figured there are two choices...I can drown in the pain and loss or rise above. I chose to rise above. I can't control what others do, but I can control how I deal with it. Is it easy? HeLL NO LOL
But, I found myself miserable constantly thinking of him, wondering what the hell happened to what was once a beautiful relationship. I analyzed until I sickened myself. I still hurt deeply, but I am worth more than letting some scumwad destroy my life. He made a choice that destroyed our relationship. I will probably never get the answers I need, but look at the source.
You should never just sit and watch life pass you by. There is meaning to life, it just doesn't feel that way right now. What helps me is recognizing and cherishing the "little blessings" whether it be a warm and sunny day or a kind gesture from someone.
Turn to friends and family and keep venting on Ojar. You need support and step by step things will turn more positive.
I wish you the very best-
`charmed
Re: How? Samarra: How do you pick up the pieces after getting your heart broken?......You just do.
I wish it were as easy as following a a set of guide lines, such as, if you do A.....then B will follow.....and just like that....your misery will fade.
We're all here on different forums, reaching out to each other, just trying to hold on and keep it together. None of us holds the key to a secret formula.
Charmed is right......thinking of him over and over and will only keep you firmly planted in NOW.....in the moment.....and you become stuck with feelings you can't resolve alone.
Live your life.....even if it seems at times you're just going through the motions. After a while the joy will return and life will seem brighter.
Life is too short and precious to spend it on someone undeserving of your time, love and effort.
Good Luck and keep posting!
Re: How? angeldust: Thank you,
It helps to know I am not alone. It is nice to have conforting words
of wisdom and caring.
You are right Charmed, I can't just sit by and watch life pass me
by, I chose to be a participant, and will start taking care of
myself and slowly heal.
Again, many thanks
Re: How? mrlament: the truth?
i pray that things can be worked out...no desrves the misery of love unwanted or retuned...but it cant be worked out its best to make a plan for moving on. i'm no expert nut w/the help of friends i'm finding out just how wrong me and my ex were for each other. no matter how hard you try you cant fix someone else or make them love you the way you loved them..its hard but overwhelmingly true. all the best!