Finally I can ask someone who won't laugh a me 2brix: Ok now I have a strange question to ask here. My real kids seem to have their heads screwed on pretty good. Sure we have all the normal problems that parents and kids always have and there is this whole issue of family being all busted yada yada yada. Somehow in the last year I have adopted a 19 year old 23 year old and a 26 year old plus and assortment of other in and out daughters (no pun intended get your minds back on the sidewalk). I have a cell phone that rings about once a half hour with another life altering moment happening that I have to play mission control to and talk them through. I have always liked the role of someone that can be asked questions but there comes a point when these girls have to start figuring all this stuff out for themselve isn't there? It does nothing but make me angry that their boyfriends or ex hubs can't seem to figure out how to help but all it takes is me going into my file cabinet of mistakes and telling them how I screwed things up for them to see how to solve their problems. Don't get me wrong I love my girls to peices but how am I supposed to look for a relationship if I have my number on speed dial for 911 calls. I also have a problem sayin no to a pretty face or so says my daughter.
Re: Finally I can ask someone who won't laugh a me charmed: I had a similar issue with my youngest daughter's friends. They were drawn to me for some reason LOL and it wasn't unusual to get calls day and night. They often wanted advice, especially the girls. What I found was that they liked to talk about their problems, but rarely wanted to do anything about them.
I have a caller ID so I tried to wean them a bit LOL My best advice and probably not that great LOL is to start being a bit busier than usual. Don't answer the phone every time. You have to set boundaries whether directly or indirectly or I swear they WILL take over your life LOL
and no I won't laugh because I've been through this
`charmed