I feel like a fossil 2brix: Ok now to get all strange on you. I am not unhappy where I am right now in life. I have started the whole get a life thing and started the long task of putting my life into a comfortable groove. By listening to others on the other side of the board, all the youngins, I have attempted to put aside the major derailment that happened in my life last year. I have examined where I am and where I want to go. Pretty much all the stuff your supposed to do when life falls apart. I haven't really kept track of all the time spent pondering or hiding under the blanket but I assure you my mind is tired of all the work. While I have spent all this time thinking I have found that a chunk of who I wanted to be when I was younger has been left behind. I spent my life trying to build that white picket dream only to find out that I was antiquated in my thinking. The woman of today doesn't seem to want a man who goes to work, comes home to spend time with his kids, gets out of her hair once a week for an evening and tries to assure her she is the best thing on the planet. What I wanted in the past is to have a balance of things like road trips to Banff or Jasper along with mowing the lawn on Sunday afternoons. Spending a couple of weeks out in the national parks camping. All the time working together to build a solid foundation for retirement years. I wanted walking the dog in the evening saying hello to the neighbors and enjoying the changing of seasons even in winter. What I seem to find is what I envisioned is too dull or just not what the modern woman wants. Now I may be a hick thinking that its just plain nice to sit in a room with a real fire going even if it is that the both of you are just reading. That and the time to live a life that includes romance is just about impossible when children are about. So I have talked to my councillor and he just laughed at the notion that my dream world seemed impossible. His words are that I have to simply find the right partner to live that life with. Ya right. I have looked for that partner and I feel she doesn't exist. Either the women I have been talking to want to build their career and don't have the time of day for slow living or they have the time for slow living but can't seem to grasp the idea of building for the future. Maybe I am looking in all the wrong places but I have no clue where to go a looking. I have spent evenings out with women who are incredible and I have had the truely dud dates. Am I just a fossil from the past. Are the women of today just plain old not interested in what used to be a reasonable way of life? Am I wrong in wanting to build a partnership that is fiscally and emotionally secure? Where did balanced lives go? Well enough of my rambling now I am going off line to work on my next silly thought duality of person.
Re: I feel like a fossil charmed: I don't think you're a fossil at all, but a man that values the meaningful things in life. It's difficult to find somenoe that shares these values.
I've been laughed at sometimes because of the dream life I've talked about which is...
a man that genuinely loves me, would never cheat, never give me reason to question his fidelity, is a hard worker, but I wouldn't care if he's a garbage man LOL, a simple log home in the country; quiet evenings by the fire; sipping iced tea or lemonade on the front porch as the sun sets; no need for diamonds, but a Cracker Jacks ring would be fine if it was given from a true heart.
I don't care about material things in excess. In fact, I tend to be frugal. I long for simplicity, the true meaning of life and love that is pure. It seems simplicity is difficult to attain in a high-tech, fast-paced, dog-eat-dog world. I can find it by myself, but sharing it with another is the difficult task.
My ex-bf gave me every reason to believe he was this man. He had our life mapped out to old age. Too bad he traded me and this life for being overwhelmed with a stripper. But, I'm happy with who I am and should I never have someone to share this life with, I'll be ok. I would rather live "authentically" by myself than to live life with deception from someone else.
I do not give up hope that someone genuine exists, but I do not actively seek this person. If it's in God's plan for me to have someone else, I will.
I hope the woman of your dreams enters your life and your faith will be restored-
`charmed
Re: I feel like a fossil Samarra: You could have read my mind......funny....it's actually what I've been wondering....except, of course, the reverse....."Where are all the good, stable men with old-fashioned values, that enjoy the simple pleasures in life???" "Where?" Because I've been looking for a little while and I can't seem to find them.
Perhaps they're sitting at home too wondering the same thing.....one thing I do know.....you're thinking is NOT anitquated.....it's refreshing....you're not a fossil....but a man with alot of good values and ideals. Hold on to them.....in a world that values little.....it's like a pocketful of gold. She's out there......you just haven't met her yet. I hope you do.
Re: I feel like a fossil djmac: Hear, hear samarra!
Just stay true to yourself brix...someday, likely when you least expect it, she'll pop into your campsite wondering if you happen to have an extra roll of TP or if you have any Grey Poupon to go with the lovely trout she's cooking over the campfire!
Fossil? Not likely man!
Re: I feel like a fossil Dean: Dont feel like a fossil. Right after my divorce I felt like I just was not cut out for the "new" dating scene. I am definitly not into the hook-ups and one night'ers etc.
I'd rather spend 2 hours of quality time with a special someone than a overnight hook-up that I will never see again. I too come home from work, spend time at the house and own up to my responsibilities. Never was into the bar/gotta go out every night scene. Be patient, be yourself, and what you are looking for will come.